For generations, the conversation around menstruation has predominantly been one directed toward girls. Parents, educators, and healthcare providers have focused on preparing young girls for this natural, biological process, ensuring they understand its significance and how to manage it. But what about the boys? The time has come for a shift in how we approach the topic of menstruation—one that includes our sons.
Menstruation is often still surrounded by stigma and silence, and that silence extends to how boys are educated about it. As a society, we have been quick to educate girls about their periods, but the same cannot always be said for their male counterparts. It’s time to break the taboo and ensure that boys are equally educated about menstruation, not only for the benefit of their understanding but also to foster empathy, equality, and respect.
Why Should We Talk to Sons About Menstruation?
- Breaking the Stigma
Menstruation is a natural bodily function, yet it has been historically shrouded in shame and embarrassment. By discussing periods openly with boys, we normalize the conversation and remove the stigma associated with it. This not only helps to reduce the societal embarrassment surrounding periods but also ensures that boys can approach the topic with maturity and understanding, without discomfort or awkwardness. - Promoting Gender Equality
Teaching boys about periods is a crucial part of gender equality. When boys understand menstruation, they are better equipped to support the women and girls in their lives—whether it be as sons, brothers, partners, or fathers. An informed boy grows into a man who can contribute to creating a more equal, inclusive society. - Fostering Empathy and Respect
Understanding the challenges that women and girls face during their menstrual cycles encourages empathy. Boys who are educated about periods are less likely to make insensitive jokes, perpetuate stereotypes, or dismiss the physical and emotional toll that menstruation can take. This helps foster healthier relationships based on respect and mutual understanding. - Reducing Misunderstandings
Without proper knowledge, misconceptions about periods can arise. Boys may have limited or inaccurate views, which can lead to confusion or inappropriate comments. By providing clear and factual information, we help boys understand that menstruation is a natural process that should be respected, not something to be laughed at or feared.
How Can We Talk to Our Sons About Periods?
- Start Early and Keep It Simple
It’s important to start the conversation about menstruation early, in an age-appropriate way. This could begin when they are around 5 or 6 years old, when children are beginning to understand basic bodily functions. You might start with simple explanations about how all bodies are different and that girls and women have periods as part of their natural cycle. - Use Resources
There are plenty of books, videos, and educational resources designed to explain menstruation to boys. Resources like “The Period Book: A Girl’s Guide to Growing Up” by Karen Gravelle and “The Boys Body Book” by Kelli Dunham provide age-appropriate, scientifically accurate information for young readers. These can serve as tools to help initiate discussions in a way that is comfortable for both you and your son. - Be Open and Honest
It’s essential to be open about the reality of periods. Instead of making it sound mysterious or uncomfortable, present it as a normal part of life. Share why periods happen and how they are a sign of health for those who menstruate. Avoid euphemisms like “that time of the month,” which can make the topic seem shameful or secretive. - Encourage Questions
Boys may have questions they’re hesitant to ask. Foster an environment where they feel comfortable asking about menstruation, no matter how awkward or unusual the questions may seem. Addressing their curiosity in an open, non-judgmental way helps ensure that the conversation is productive and educational. - Incorporate Empathy
Encourage your son to think about how he would feel if he were in the shoes of a person experiencing a period. Explain the physical discomfort, emotional fluctuations, and potential challenges that can come with menstruation. This can help cultivate empathy and encourage him to be supportive of others during their menstrual cycles. - Use Real-Life Scenarios
When discussing menstruation, it’s helpful to use real-life scenarios. For example, you might talk about how a family member, friend, or classmate might need support during their period, whether it’s a kind word, access to menstrual products, or a quiet space. This will help your son understand how to react and how to offer help when needed.
Conclusion: The Future of Menstrual Education
The future of menstrual education is one where both girls and boys are equally informed. By educating our sons about menstruation, we create a more inclusive, empathetic, and informed society. Sons who understand periods are not only better prepared to support their peers but are also more likely to contribute to breaking down the stigma that surrounds menstruation.
As we continue to advance toward gender equality, it’s crucial to ensure that every child—regardless of gender—understands and respects this fundamental aspect of human biology. It’s time to talk to our sons about periods and pave the way for a world where menstruation is embraced, not hidden.
